The Uncomfortable Comfort Zone

The expression, comfort zone got really popular in recent years, especially in relation with leaving it. It is because some of the people are so attached to their comfort zone that they just can’t let it go, which means, that they do the same routine each day, never breaking out, never challenging themselves. And not even their daily routine is hard. They wake up, go to work school, and then go back home, eat something and just spend the rest of the day with resting…

Rest at home

I am not that kind of person. I usually challenge myself each day, by adding so many things to my to-do-list, that for ordinary people it seems impossible to finish it within a day, for some even within a week. However, in my opinion, you have time for that, what you want to have time for, and I try to challenge myself every day. But I am not a super-woman, which means that, although I can accomplish a lot in a day, when I wake up at 6 in the morning and go to sleep at 0:30 am for the 4th time in the week, I do get exhausted. Today was a day like that, I was really tired of everything, I had a terrible dream, I could barely get out of my bed and I just wanted to skip everything from today. So I did so. I thought that if there are people, who can live their whole life in their comfort zone and be completely happy, I can get one day as well, which is not the weekend. The first few hours were really refreshing, I felt that I have finally time to rest; I did not think about any of my responsibilities, just watched a movie and cuddled with my significant other. I ate lunch, and then took a nap and half of the day was gone. After the nap, I started to feel really uncomfortable. I not only didn’t know what to do with my free time, if not working on something, but I started to feel compunction. I took a bath, checked all my long-time-ago-forgotten acquaintances on Facebook, and then I reached the peak. I just had to do something! I literally felt bad, I was dizzy and still tired, not refreshed at all. That’s how I realized that if you reach the end of your comfort zone and step out of it, there is no coming back. When you get used to challenging yourself every day and do a bunch of things, sitting in front of the TV all day won’t feel that comforting anymore. So if you are considering the possibility of leaving your comfort zone, I hardly recommend it to you, but keep in mind that there is no coming back, your comfort zone will become an uncomfortable place to be at!

The simplicity of kindness

I had one of those days, when nothing goes well. The weather was disgusting, grey, foggy and chilly, which resulted in a seriously annoying headache. I was on my way to work, but of course in a hurry, because I chose to stay in bed 20 minutes longer, then I had to go back home for my umbrella, when I realized that it’s raining. All in all, it was a horrible morning; I felt terrible and convinced myself that nothing can make my day better. I looked at the people around me with hatred and I desired nothing more than going back to my bed…I did not have enough time to have breakfast at home and I just wanted to take an Advil to release my pain, so I ran into a little store to buy something to eat and a bottle of water. You would think that this little story had no importance in my story, but it had the greatest role!

A middle-aged plump woman was standing in the cashier and greeted me with a smile. It confused me first, but then I smiled back, which made me feel slightly better. Then she simply told me the following words:

You look really pretty, that red lipstick is gorgeous. You look like a French actress.

She did not want anything from me, it was just a simple act of kindness and my mood went from melancholic to fantastic. I was shocked by the way this woman just made my day with one simple sentence. I did not care that it was not Carl Lagerfeld who told me these words, but a plump cashier. The only thing that I cared about was the honest kindness of this incredible woman. I thanked her for the compliment and her answer was a real life lesson. ‘I can’t see why women never compliment each other, they would rather be jealous instead of saying out loud what they think and make someone’s day better.

If I like something, I say it. We, women should converge, not oppress each other. ‘After that my day was awesome, I did not feel it hard to be kind with my coworkers during the day, and no one annoyed me at all. The simplicity of kindness and the positive attitude turned my terrible day into a beautiful one. Although the quote is not from Paulo Coelho, but from a cashier, but that is the moral of the story and it could easily be the words of an influential woman as well. Sometimes you just have to listen to everyday people; they may say the wisest things.

The next day I went back and gave her a small gift to thank her this life lesson, which made me realize the importance of kindness. Being kind will always pay back!